Single Week 1w+|Burned Out and Quitting! Not Talking About Global Selling Independent Sites Anymore! Don't Want a 9-5 Job But Do Nothing? W24-25

This Week's Progress

Global E-commerce Independent Sites

Friends, nothing to report. These two weeks, my global selling independent site business engagement was only 3%. I deserve to lose money. Customer emails too lazy to reply, social media content too lazy to post, site too lazy to maintain and optimize. Just completely slacking off.

Personal Brand Media

1. Recently discovered that one of my previous essays was referenced by various media platforms. Feels quite interesting. Hahahahaha.

2. Group 8 established.

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Let's Talk About Some Positive Life Stuff

When life offers choices, after over a year of SOHO lifestyle, I observed something about myself:

I periodically switch between intense grinding and intense relaxation. Just working crazily for a while, then crazily "playing" to decompress. This is my passive way of countering work fatigue.

At this stage, I'm quite satisfied with this "relatively fresh" lifestyle. After all, I've never experienced such self-driven ebb and flow before.

Definitely not "getting rich," but the results match my effort. I get what I put in; when I don't put in effort, I can freely choose to do what I want and enjoy. In influencer terms, I've achieved "lying flat freedom."

But more importantly, future lifestyle possibilities are endless, and I have active choice (it's actually kind of scary to think about - lived most of my life and just now realizing life can actually be chosen by yourself).

Whatever you want, you can do. Suddenly want to hike/travel/eat good food somewhere, just pack up and go; want to develop a new skill or hobby, just go for it; even wanting to live abroad or become a digital nomad isn't completely impossible.

In influencer terms, life's meaning has been concretized.

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Let's Talk About This Negative 9-5 Job

Do you wear your negative emotions on your face?

Recently heard tons of offline friends complaining about their 9-5 jobs and those colleagues who can't speak nicely, plus the recent "polite coffee" incident.

For me, my previous work experiences were actually quite pleasant. Nice bosses and colleagues, challenging and interesting work content, felt satisfied with compensation. So I consider myself a positive energy person in most work situations.

Of course, it's also because I'm too weak, didn't qualify for the current hyper-competitive and hostile stage, already eliminated from the workplace. This leaves me with nothing to complain about.

But I've always been curious - how bad does someone's work and life have to be for them to "wear it on their face" so much in work, social activities, and family life? So "hostile and negative"?

Wearing It on Your Face Is a Weak Person's Protective Color

What does "wearing it on your face" mean?

The first time I truly felt negative social emotions worn on faces was when I first entered the workforce, on Beijing's subway.

I strongly suggest all positive energy people go try Beijing's morning and evening rush hour subway. In the packed crowds, every young person looks grim, everyone wearing an expression of disgust at life and surroundings. The whole subway atmosphere is oppressive, a taut string ready to snap.

In the pushing and shoving crowds getting on and off, you can hear a chorus of people fiercely accusing each other of pushing, everyone "zer"-ing at each other. Almost weekly you'll hear arguments like:

"What the f***! Stop pushing!"

"If you don't like crowding don't take the subway! Idiot!"

And if at this moment you're sunny and positive, putting on a "it's okay, it's okay" or "oh sorry, sorry" attitude, you'll actually seem like an anomaly. You'll seem like someone easy to bully, naive, no temper, no principles;

So you also have to follow this Beijing subway vibe, learning to frown in public showing an angry state, acting like you're having a 100 million business negotiation going badly, when actually your salary is only 5k.

Of course, to some extent, this is a "good" phenomenon. Because you can feel most people are self-dissipating. They're just feeling sorry for themselves on the subway. In this situation they're not hurting anyone, just hoping to release negative emotions during the one or two hours of commuting so they can keep smiling at work, serving bosses and clients.

At minimum, when people get to the workplace environment, they can still pretend a bit, maintaining a polite and positive workplace atmosphere.

But the delivery/express couriers getting their dignity trampled, the Didi drivers getting yelled at for not turning left, aren't so lucky. They're the ones meeting people who can't self-dissipate, who output their work and life negative emotions to relative "weaklings."

But actually, looking back, the pressure releasers are also weak in their own environments. They just have nowhere to act tough or release pressure.

The polite coffee incident is the same. Both sides might be workers who can't self-dissipate from their 9-5 jobs or rotten lives, clashing head-on. One side is a barista worker, the other might be a customer who just nodded and bowed at work and needs to catch a flight to continue serving their boss or clients.

So most people might simply be weak (this weak isn't particularly negative, just a capability deficiency). They don't have the ability to handle their own emotions, don't have the ability to handle business, and can only put on a strong front using facial expressions to isolate themselves and pass pressure outward, covering up their weak image.

This weakness and tendency to demonstrate might come from their family of origin and upbringing environment, or from constantly being squeezed and stimulated later in life.

What's scary is that more and more workplace people aren't pretending anymore, or really can't hold on.

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