Weekly 2w+|How to Overcome Early-Stage Anxiety as a Solo Global Seller? Three Self-PUA Techniques. W31-32

Global Selling & Independent Site: Weekly Revenue Broke 2w, Shipping Costs Dropped 50%

Good News and Bad News

Good News:

1. Weekly revenue finally broke 2w again
2. Starting from two weeks ago, shipping costs dropped 50% (and shipping has always been my biggest cost)
3. Finally started working. Last week I spent over an hour and found 6 backlink partners
4. Two contacts from a long time ago actually replied, negotiating cooperation details
5. Work status about to fully recover

Bad News:

1. Last Monday I slightly increased ad budget by 25 pounds, but ROAS remained the same
2. Found 6 backlink partners, only 1 replied

This week I plan to continue recovering my work status despite the pressure of Black Wukong's launch (absolutely won't buy, absolutely won't download).

I feel like I have so much energy now, opening 10 stores a day is no problem, next month I can buy a Tomson Group apartment.

Personal Social Media IP: Xiaoyuzhou 4K Subscribers

Xiaoyuzhou happily reached 4K subscribers.

Let me say a few more words here. I often see readers from other channels posting comments:

• "Too wordy!"
• "Why has the quality content decreased!"

First, it's to cater to the content preferences of multiple social media platforms like Xiaoyuzhou.

Second, the refined quality content is kept private in my paid community.

Next Plans

Planning to occasionally livestream, made an internal survey questionnaire.

Group 10 might be the last free community group.

After group 10, I won't create pure free community groups anymore. Even 9.9 yuan will have a threshold.

Because at this stage, I no longer need numbers to support the surface, I need quality more.

How to Overcome Anxiety in Early Stage of Global Selling?

First, as long as you're a normal, serious player, you will definitely have anxiety.

So first, I want to comfort you, anxiety is completely normal, never get stuck in the negative emotions of anxiety and walk towards an even worse situation.

How to relieve or even overcome it? This is my experience summarized over more than a year.

1. Must Keep Exercising, Find Some "Fancy Exercises" with Freshness

If you're in a period where your state in all aspects is extremely poor, you must exercise immediately!!

There are many choices, I'll recommend some from E to I:

Pure E People: Find good friends to exercise together, whether it's basic running or learning a new sport together like tennis, rock climbing, etc., so you can encourage and supervise each other.

In this process:

• You gain social emotions
• The positive energy brought by hormone secretion after short-term exercise
• Assuming you can maintain long-term exercise, a healthy body and fit figure

Both E and I (Normal Me): You can try participating in group fitness classes like Supermonkey. A class costs a few dozen yuan, but you can gain unique exercise experiences in the group exercise atmosphere.

If you're in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, or Shenzhen and have the conditions, you can search for indoor bungee Bungee, a bit expensive, but really fun.

Pure I People (When I'm Autistic): Buy a yoga mat at home, follow Pamela's dance and aerobics on pad or TV, no one will criticize your moves, just immerse yourself in it.

Sisters, regardless of whether you make money in global selling, at least you can train a great figure to amaze everyone.

2.1 Learn Appropriate Self-PUA: Self-Comfort, Recognize Reality

This is a self-comfort method I often use: Learn to recognize reality, lower expectations.

For example, early on when I saw various wealth-flaunting success stories and success methodology breakdowns online, I would become extremely anxious. But I would think:

• Others likely invested a long time
• Invested a lot of financial and material resources
• Had天时地利人和 (perfect timing, location, and people)
• Had solid personal capabilities

Only then did they achieve such results.

Why should I be the same as them from the start? Others must have also experienced difficulties and setbacks, why must I have smooth sailing?

And, for that one success, behind it are 9999 failures. Due to survivorship bias, I just didn't see them. Why should I be so lucky to become that successful one?

Thinking this way, you'll feel much relieved and settle down to polish yourself.

2.2 Learn Appropriate Self-PUA: Instead of Asking Why You're Not Getting Orders, Blame Yourself Why You Should Get Orders

Compared to the pure self-comfort above, we start adding some professionalism to ease the anxiety difficulties we encounter in business.

These difficulties include "Why don't I have conversions? Why don't I get orders when I run ads?" and similar questions.

Haven't you noticed that this attitude is essentially like a child throwing a tantrum and being unreasonable? It's all a breakdown centered on self-interest from a self-centered perspective.

And at this time, there are no "mom, dad, or teacher" to guide us to think of solutions. For friends with slightly immature minds, they will collapse to the point of being unable to recover.

Think about it the other way around, why should you have conversions? Why should others buy from you as soon as you run ads?

I know this has a strong PUA flavor:

But don't you think your site, your product selection, your entire presentation (every image, every video, every paragraph of text) looks like shit?

Why should you blame others for not buying your shit?

Further, you start being forced to think:

• Is my brand positioning accurate enough?
• Are my product selling points attractive enough?
• Is my marketing drive powerful enough?
• It must be that I didn't do xxx well enough, leading to no orders.
• How can I optimize my shit into good-looking shit, good-smelling shit, or even how can I optimize it into not shit.

Instead of collapsing disorderly like a child, why no orders, why no orders, why no orders.

I want to make money, I want to make money, I want to make money.

2.3 Learn Appropriate Self-PUA: Shift from Victim Mindset to Owner Mindset

When you start changing "Why won't others buy my stuff" to "Why should others buy my stuff", you shift from victim mindset to owner mindset.

Victim Mindset:

• Why won't the platform give me traffic?
• Why won't customers place orders?
• Why are competitors so successful?
• Why don't I have good luck?

Owner Mindset:

• What have I done to make the platform willing to give me traffic?
• What value have I provided to make customers willing to place orders?
• What efforts have I made to become as successful as my competitors?
• What have I prepared to welcome good luck?

3. Build a Positive Feedback Loop

The opposite of anxiety is not relaxation, but a sense of control.

How to build a sense of control? By building a positive feedback loop.

Small Goals - Small Achievements - Positive Feedback

Don't start with big goals like "monthly income of 100k".

Set some small goals you can reach with effort:

• Write 1 blog post today
• Contact 5 backlink partners this week
• Optimize 10 product pages this month

Every time you complete a small goal, give yourself positive feedback:

• Record it in your achievement list
• Share with friends
• Give yourself a small reward

4. Find Your Support System

Walking alone you can walk fast, walking together you can walk far.

Find your support system:

• Join high-quality communities
• Find partners who can encourage each other
• Regularly communicate with peers
• Seek professional help when necessary

Other Gains This Week

Cognitive Upgrade

• Anxiety is normal, accept it rather than fight it
• Exercise is the best anti-anxiety medicine
• Self-PUA is not belittling yourself, but recognizing reality
• Shift from victim mindset to owner mindset
• Small steps fast is better than one big step to heaven

Life Status

• Work status fully recovered
• Full of energy
• Clear goals
• Improved execution

Next Steps

1. Continue recovering work status - Despite the pressure of Black Wukong's launch, absolutely won't buy, absolutely won't download
2. Backlink building - Continue following up with partners who replied, finalize cooperation details
3. Content output - Maintain blog and social media update frequency
4. Community operations - Prepare for group 10, plan paid community model
5. Livestream attempts - Try occasional livestreaming based on survey feedback

Summary

Anxiety is a stage every solo global seller will experience.

The key is not to eliminate anxiety, but to:

• Accept the existence of anxiety - This is normal
• Find relief methods - Exercise, self-PUA, positive feedback
• Shift mindset - From victim to owner
• Build support systems - Don't fight alone

If you're currently in anxiety, I hope this article can give you some inspiration.

Remember, you're not fighting alone.

Follow me to see how an ordinary solo seller overcomes anxiety in the global selling industry and achieves continuous growth.

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